Guess what?

It's true, people will say they want someone who is caring, loving, outgoing, educated, ambitious, but will settle for someone who has none of that as long as they are fit, beautiful and lovely. Looks are important, I am the first to admit it, but they certaintly aren't the only thing.

I am only *One in a Million* but for me I can tell you what I look for.

* Security - can support himself and is confident

* Personality - sense of humor and is real about who he is

* Looks - beauty is in the eye of the beholder so no need to be Brad Pitt... but yes women dont mind eye candy

* Hard and soft - bring on your bad boy side and cry if you want to too.

(btw: Kicken is slang for words like cool, rad, awesome...you get the idea)

Someone who will carry the shopping?! Seriously, that woman has got a whole juggling act going on - mobile phone, coffee, handbag, shopping bags - I'm impressed!

For me though, the most attractive thing in a man is confidence, someone who is happy within himself. I can spot it within a few seconds of meeting someone and it really does hugely affect the whole direction of the encounter/conversation/relationship.

Looks are less important, but if he has a beautiful personality, then he becomes beautiful to me anyway :-)

P.S. Have a look at my blog and see if you notice anything different...

Thanks for commenting on my lit blog ^_^! Here's what a girl would think if she saw that woman:
- She's a fake blond
- Her hair is sooo much more fried than mine/yours/that girl in my lit class
- Do I look skinnier than her?
- She's probably a bitch. Not like me. I'm out-spoken.


Roxy
http://www.roxythekiller.blogspot.com

When I see a woman like that, I see "high maintenance". She has lots of needs.

There's a joke along this line, that has different variations, but goes like this version:

A man is dating three women and wants to get married. He has to decide which one to ask. He gives them each $1000. The first one spends $800 on clothes and puts the other $200 in
the bank. The second one spends $200 on clothes and puts the $800 in the bank. The third puts the whole $1000 in the bank.

Which one does he marry?

The one with the biggest tits.

hi simon, pay u a visit..

Character - I just want a man who is loyal and treat me nicely, which I already have.

Looks - nah... not important as long as he's nice to look at and clean

Money - as long as he pays the bills and give me a treat once in a while...

from,
Misty

Hey there....thanks for stopping by my blog! I have some reading to do here to but so far I am enjoying what you write :) Interesting stuff. I'll be back! :)

This may come across totally wrong but here goes. As a woman that has been married for 12 years, if I were to get married for a second time it would be to someone that would treat me like a princess (totally opposite of what I have now). To elaborate on this, I will say that I would want someone that would listen to me or rub my shoulders after a hard day. Money is not a big deal and as far as looks go, it truly is whats on the inside.

Thank you for stopping by and commenting on my blog. I'll be checking back here regularly!

Thanks for dropping by my place. :-)

What would a guy think? WOn't they get petrified? You now it's going to cost you big bucks maintenance alone. lol

What would a woman look for? You got the sequence right. Without character, then looks. No looks? Then money is the next best thing.

They all want they´re own subjectivly personal fairytail prince.

The difference between Me at 22 (15 years ago) and Me at 37 (now), is that I still drool over that girl. Especially at the beach, but I don't even have the slightest desire to "hit on" her. Even if she wasn't out of my league.

But I have no desire to do anything further; talk to her; chase her; date her, etc. I've had enough experience in life now to know that there are women who are not "painfully hot", but even so quite pretty enough for attraction to be there in spades, but who are everything else I want in a friend, a partner, and a lover.

That list of things I want includes: (a) a kind and gentle heart, (b) a brain the size of a planet, (c) an adventurous spirit; willing to try strange food, watch foreign movies, and explore life with me, and (d) most importantly, does she share my moral/religious views. If I have all that, then we could make a life together.

I want one woman, to have a profound relationship with, that lasts the rest of my life.

Nevertheless, I'm pretty much still the same, from a hard-wired biological point of view. If I see a woman, maybe a LITTLE more curvy than the one you've shown, I'm pretty much a drooling idiot. It's actually kind of painful and embarrassing how much it unhinges me. And at 37, I'm old enough to be that 17 year old hottie's father.

Warren

Yes to all three!

Thanks for your visit, Simon!!! That was a pleasant surprise because usually those who read mine are Venezuelan.

What do beautiful, classy ladies look for in a man??? Well... I can only speak for myself: someone who can UNDERSTAND US!!! However, since Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, that's not always easy to get...

God Bless!!!

I can tell you what I'm not looking for.

A guy like the one on the street yesterday, who was older than my father, and decides to shout at me, "Hey, nice rack!"

He was good for one thing, though, which is getting a chance to be a real New Yorker, as I responded, "Fuck off, asshole."

xo
Miss S

Character -- 70%

Looks -- 25%

Money -- 5%

Honesty is number one, along with everything that comes with it. Respect, compassion, responsibility. Can we even have one of these without the others?

And let's be honest. Looks matter. I'm not talking drop dead gorgeous. But at least be able to look the person in the eye without sensing any nausea. Unless it's a case of "beggars can't be choosers." Then, well... Even then, who am I to judge? The ugly couples have someone and I don't.

Money -- I don't care if you're rich, but you damn well better be doing your part to make sure our household stays afloat and is comfortable. Unemployed adult guys are losers (unless they've been laid off. Even then they'd better be looking hard.)

Hmmm... hope you can bear another comment. Just realized you asked what a woman [i]like her[/i] wants in a man. I am most decidedly not a woman like her.

My gut? She's into looks and money. But I'm operating off of a stereotype.

Thanks for letting me clarify.

thanks for the comment simon. i definitely want to look around when i have more time - i'm slammed at work today. i will link you to my blog though...thanks for visiting :)

Well these days - if I still looked gorgeous - I'd be thinking, "Does he look like VIncent D'Onofrio?" I'm really shallow.

I have to agree with lj: confidence is it. But let me make the distinction: CONFIDENCE, not arrogance. He has to be comfortable being himself (despite what people think), kind (the golden rule!) and respectful. I guess character is pretty important. Looks can attract a person, but if he's a jerk, that's a super-turn off.

Btw, thanks for the note on the blog! And I hope you and Rachelle get together (you seem like a great guy from your blog).

Beautiful, chic and smart... it may be that the wrong image has been posted? But tastes, of course, do differ.

To me this person is decidedly average, has no concept of sartorial matters, and "smart" cannot be referring to her intellectual powers, which she clearly lacks, seeing that she is about to cross the street whilst staring at her field telephone screen: quite dangerous.

One man's meat is, again, another man's poison, but what goes through my mind is: “Oh no, another woman who eats and drinks in public, another shining example of mass culture under whose foot a manhole is sadly covered… now where on earth is my valet…”

Yours devotedly.

She, too, would look for someone who is only a bit mysterious and mostly sure of himself. A smile, and unbroken eye contact (do not let your eyes misbehave!), while saying "hi" works miracles-- even on the most gorgeous babes. A guy walking a really cute and friendly dog (even if you have to borrow one) is also a great door opener. Just be prepared to follow a brief chat through whatever open door there is, with an offer for coffee right away, or later. She won't offer; you'll have to ask.

Trust me, everyone is quite human, and almost everyone needs more friends!
:-)

I commented on your comment over at my blog, but thought I'd better say hi here, in case you didn't see it over there. Hi!

Hmm...character, looks, or money...are they mutually exclusive options?!

It would probably be better to ask her as an individual than simply to ogle and conjecture. In my personal experience, people who are interested are always the people who are interesting. If you are alive with interest, engaged in the world, genuinely wanting to get to know her, then you will be attractive enough, no matter your looks or money.

Thanks for posting on my blog. Your name, I must admit, was a little off-putting, but your blog is definitely less shallow than the title.

Hey there swiss army man. Thanks for the intriguing comment. I always wanted to ski the Alps, but I never met a real swiss before.

Some insight, life is short, marriage is long, so don't rush into any relationship. Be yourself, and you'll find the right one for you. Women just want someone who's comfortable and confident in who they are, not who a woman wants them to be, well, okay, as long as you don't have some serious mental illness that could use some healing. :D. Besides we all change and grow everyday, so love with someone who makes you a better man, not a different man.

So who exactly is this neighbor girl of yours? I'll have to catch on my reading around here.

Come back soon.

-April

Thanks for the comments! I have enjoyed your insights as well!! I'll definitely re-visit!!

To answer your question .. girls think the same things when they see a foxy guy. :)

I agree with some of the others... she looks too high maintenance for me.

Thanks for stopping by my place! You got a link from me!

HI! Thanks for leaving your comment on my blog. I have read some of yours and intend on reading more, very interesting. I recently flew throug your country on my way home from Spain. Wish I could have stayed longer instead of jogging through the airport and jumping on another plane for the states.

Hi simon, thanks for the comment and encouragement. And sure u can add my link ;)

As to what a girl thinks about a guy - Some girls go for a guy who sweeps them off their feet, some like the really rich and as for me, I like guys who are honest and sincerely nice.

cheers!

When I see a girl like that, I feel glad that I, myself am no longer so consumed in such vices as shopping and fake-tanning. And spending $5 on a shitty cup of coffee because it's a known fact that Starbucks is hipper than Little Red Roaster.

She is a beautiful girl. Chic, yes, but smart? I'm not saying she couldn't be. But if we're talking about making assumptions here, what about her makes you assume she's smart?