guy's mind

18 comments:

1. ok, like wat happened to my previous comments????
   
   Now, on Mr. Perfect..i dont think its logical to expect anyone to be perfect. We have ideals and its really hard to get that in real life...
   
   Thanks for passing by.

   

   Tandra September 13, 2007 11:35 AM

2. I always just looked for someone who liked 80s music as much as I did.

   

   naechstehaltestelle September 13, 2007 1:32 PM

3. I think you only have to be ideal for that girl or that person. You need chemistry and to have a best friend. You need to have someone who always laughs and is comfortable around you you...
   
   We all make mistakes and without them we are learning..
   
   Great blog and thanks for visiting mine..
   
   Where are you originally from in Switzerland and where are you living now?

   

   Expat Traveler September 13, 2007 3:05 PM

4. Well, yeah. (wink) I need my man to have polar qualities. If he is all one and not the opposite, it never lasts. I have been with more sensitive types than my husband. I have also been with some real BAD boys. If a man can be SOME of both, I think it makes him a better "catch".

   

   Suzanne September 13, 2007 3:25 PM

5. Sadly, yes, I think women do want this. But to be fair, men also want Ms. Perfect, and she is made up of just as many contradictions.

   

   Jess September 13, 2007 4:06 PM

6. Nope.
   
   At some point we all realize that "perfection" in a human being doesnt exist.
   
   I think the only time one finds happiness in another person completely, is when they fully discover what they themselves are all about, KWIM?

   

   m•riah September 13, 2007 4:25 PM

7. I guess things get wrong when we expecto something from someone. I believe true love is about accepting someone the exact way he/she is, and not to expect more than what she/he wants to give us...
   :)

   

   Muegano. September 13, 2007 4:54 PM

8. Thats what they want but what they settle for is a different story;)
   
   PS I added you link to my blog

   

   Brian in Mpls September 13, 2007 5:07 PM

9. Hi Simon! Thanks for your note on my blog and for directing me to your own. I've descended into the thirties, so I look forward to reading about your twenties.

   

   Paul G. McCurdy September 13, 2007 6:03 PM

10. Im on board with alot of the comments here.
    Perfect is such a strong word. What is perfect in one's eyes may not be in anothers. I think your discription was maybe in the past what other potential mates have wanted or you expected that is what they wanted out of you, but what if you just be you?...
    what if they see you as butch and beautiful, harsh and sensitive...etc... ?
    Perfection is seen in the eyes of the beholder.
    
    Your really soul searching lately arent you?!
    
    I hope in your discoveries you realize that what Muegano said is so very true... dont expect more than what someone wants to give you, or for that matter what you can give them... Happiness, Perfection... dont they come hand in hand with what YOU really want to?

    

    kickenchica September 13, 2007 6:33 PM

11. I'm not a woman, but these days I would settle for sane, employed and non-violent.
    
    P.S. Thanks for visiting my blog. I like yours!

    

    Junk Thief September 13, 2007 6:43 PM

12. Perfect is boring. Women want men who believe that she is capable to do anything, yet a man who will own up and still do his share and take care of her needs once in while. How's that for contradictory? Nice blog BTW.

    

    Clover September 13, 2007 9:36 PM

13. Everyone wants perfection in their mate, but most sane people know that they aren't going to find it. Dealing with life's complexities is what life is about though. Makes it interesting.

    

    brad September 13, 2007 10:02 PM

14. I think the problem is thinking they are all these things, then finding out they are not. We self-delude a lot out of lust.

    

    val September 13, 2007 10:10 PM

15. I think I would say yes to that. Well, maybe the description than the end of the poem... I think, to me, it`s that mix of the balanced feminine/masculine in a man, that a woman wants. But that`s just me. And there is no Perfect, just to the eye of the beholder maybe.
    Thanks for your great note about my poor little malnourished bloggy thing. I just don't know what to do with it yet...
    I have only read just two things from your blog before I commented, and I look forward to more. :)

    

    PisceanParadox September 14, 2007 12:34 AM

16. I think that's a great idea for a next post; show what 'some' men (including me, I guess) look for in a woman. I'm certain it won't be difficult for me to come up with numerous contradicting qualities and features.
    
    Thanks for the hint :-)

    

    simon September 17, 2007 1:34 AM

17. If the man were perfect...he and I would not get along ;) I want/need someone who is perfect for me.
    
    I do not expect perfection; rather, common ideals, shared interests, mutual love and respect, and of course attraction.
    
    When I initially read your comment and saw your link I thought--not a chance--but I must say your insights are impressive. You have a distinct way of expressing yourself--and the title of your old blog was a misnomer.
    
    Thanks for the compliment.

    

    Ash September 20, 2007 7:22 AM

18. I tend to think we write out a list of ideal traits just to make us feel like we know what we're doing. In the end, the list helps you narrow things down, but that's it. If you meet the "one," odds are that person will have a few of your preferred traits, not posess those that you thought you couldn't live without, and have plenty that you didn't know the value of.
    
    When I met my husband, I just knew...no list required :-)

    

    MetaMommy September 20, 2007 9:45 PM