There You Go!

Friday, September 21

Rachelle has sent me a response. And I replied to her note.

I tried to be affectionate. Distant enough, at the same time. Show her that I am interested in what she does, what she likes, what bothers her. Yet at the same time it seemed important to me not to 'pester' her. I'm not sure if it was right what I did. Whether she will be put off.

After I had sent my reply I got to think about courting.

How much effort is a guy supposed to make? Where do you draw the line between courting and annoying a woman?

Given that a woman is looking for her fairy tale prince, as one of the blog readers previously outlined; how can an actual human male ever fulfill her most romantic dreams?

Posted in by simon |

18 comments:

  1. The line between courting and pestering is really based on the signals she's giving you. It's really key to read between the lines and too much for one woman may be just enough for another.

    The true test here is: are you really paying attention to her? And if you are, you won't have to worry about pestering her because you are giving her just what she needs.

    Keep us posted on Rachelle!

    nilla cookie September 21, 2007 1:25 AM

  2. Hi Simon,
    I would like to thank You for Your kind visit and comment.
    Interesting question about women :-)
    Good luck!
    Read You soon
    alex

    arizona69 September 21, 2007 1:26 AM

  3. If I were you, I'd find some fun things I really wanted to do and ask her to join me. That way if she said no, I could find someone else or go by myself, and if she said yes, we could hopefully have a good time!

    Good luck!

    Nancy September 21, 2007 2:47 AM

  4. Good luck, Dude! As a gay guy, I really don't have any advice about women. :o)

    Thanks for your very kind comments at my Blog of the Grateful Bear. I've added you to my blogroll, under Cyberfriends in the Blogosphere. Very interesting blog - and I love the self-confident name you've given yourself!

    gratefulbear September 21, 2007 2:54 AM

  5. Hi there. Thanks for your comment about my blog.

    Your blog is an interesting read as well and your perspective is refreshing and honest.

    I enjoyed watching the Whitney Houston interview...hadn't seen that before.

    Take care. :D

    CrazyGurl September 21, 2007 3:00 AM

  6. Wow. How refreshing it is to read your blog, your thoughts and your prowesses. So what did she respond with, by the way?

    Anon

    P.S.
    Thanks for stopping by http://pennypotboiler.blogspot.com.

    RossoBella September 21, 2007 3:29 AM

  7. Be patient, be kind, take your time. I know I need to do that myself.

    Justin September 21, 2007 4:41 AM

  8. If you worry too much about what you think she wants or where to take things and at what pace, you will miss out on what truly could be... you cant have the best if you dont be yourself. She either likes you for you or you both will end up being miserable.
    Be you! I am sure with the way you talk about her that if you treat her the same she will be yours soon enough

    kickenchica September 21, 2007 5:24 AM

  9. im with kickenchica...just be urself, go with the flow..

    Tandra September 21, 2007 12:58 PM

  10. I think we all might benefit from taking one step back and remember what we're looking for in a relationship. Do you want your other half?

    I finally realized I wanted someone who would help me complete the equation 1 + 1 = 3. Does that make sense? Once realized, it allowed me to just be me.

    I stopped "selling" and started "considering buying options". Subtle distinction, but it can make all the difference in the world.

    I'm a new fan Simon. I wish you the best and look forward to keeping up on your world.

    Best, he gay

    he gay September 21, 2007 3:07 PM

  11. If you use a cookie cutter method you get a cookie cutter woman....and who wants that

    Brian in Mpls September 21, 2007 3:45 PM

  12. I've enjoyed your blog Simon! Rachelle is a lucky girl to have your focus drawn towards her. You seem like a sweet, sincere, and sensitive man (yes, you are a man...even if you don't join the army!). What attracted me to my husband was his slight awkwardness and nervousness (he mentioned to my little sis months prior to meeting me that he was interested), and definitely his funny stories of past events when he was the butt of the joke. Pretty much, he was himself without putting on a front and that's what got me! Just do what you feel and I'm sure it will work out. It's too early now to try to fill her romantic dreams, that will come in the next few months! Best of luck and I look forward to reading how it goes with Rachelle.

    Marcia September 21, 2007 4:47 PM

  13. I want respect, honesty, commitment and dedication. I don't like to be compared to other women even in jest. I don't want to be stereotyped, visually or otherwise, as a type of woman but to be seen as an individual human being. Respect means listening to what I say and not letting the ego rule thoughts and actions. I don't like machismo, I don't want romance--I want equality, not infatuation where one is stronger and more dependent on the other.

    Sali September 21, 2007 5:03 PM

  14. I am dying from suspense!
    What will happen with you two?! Will you meet?
    Inquiring minds want to know! (Are you familiar with that line from the National Enquirer? It's part of American pop culture. Is it also part of world pop culture?)

    World of Ribonuff September 21, 2007 7:07 PM

  15. Be available, but not too available.

    Valley Girl September 21, 2007 10:47 PM

  16. Just be yourself. If it's the right girl....anything you do will be pleasing ;)

    Of course, I've been married for 21 years and my husband has lost every ounce of romance he ever had, so wtf do I know? LOL

    Chelle September 22, 2007 1:12 AM

  17. hmmm...

    call to see how her day was

    call to say hi

    but not too often

    then desperation shows

    until you've become serious

    then call a lot

    (unless Rachelle

    needs space)

    check the air in her tires

    be there if she needs to talk

    listen

    be willing to kick the ass

    of anyone who does her wrong

    but never hers

    women should never be afraid of you

    they should feel safe

    protected

    and cherished

    but not controlled

    Whoever said it was gonna be easy?

    That's just a glimpse into my fairy tale prince. Bet there's a lady out there who disagrees.

    Geminipen September 22, 2007 5:14 AM

  18. Solo podemos dar aquello que tenemos, ni más ni menos... Creo que no vinimos a este mundo a complacer a nadie sino a ser felices... Entonces dá lo que tienes y si ella lo entiende pues seran felices, y a la inversa tambien... Saludos

    raizen September 22, 2007 7:47 PM

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